Some people spend a small fortune looking to find love; others find it right in their own neighbourhood. Why are some people searching their whole lives for the same thing that other people find right next-door?
It comes down to what your expectations are, some set extremely high standards, usually unrealistic ones, standards that nobody can live up to. Others take people for what they are, accepting their idiosyncrasies.
Usually those who have set very high standards that they expect for the recipient of their affections have a false sense of their own worth. They think that they are smarter, more handsome or wittier than they really are. They don’t see themselves as other people see them.
I’m not saying that ugly men, or poor men, or short men can’t win the affections of a beautiful woman, but usually partners in life will have similarities, and then they have to be understanding of the differences if they want the relationship to survive.
When looking for love the old adage “opposites attract” does not hold water, you may be attracted to someone totally opposite of yourself but you can be sure that the attraction will eventually wear thin.
Look at your circle of friends, if you call somebody a friend usually you have common interests and ideals. The same goes for partners in life, love is sometimes confused with lust, if you want to find love you must also like the person, my wife for example is also my best friend.
Search yourself, are you looking for love in a real person or a fantasy, fantasies usually stay that way. The ideal of love has to be attainable, if you are looking for that perfect man or woman you will be a very lonely person because there is no such thing as perfection when you are talking about a mere human being.
If you follow the advice above you will be able to find that love that you have been looking for, you may even realize that the person you have been looking for lives right next door to you, or is the person at your supermarket who has always had a big smile for you when you approach the register.
When you are lucky enough to find that one person who compliments you, who you can call your other half, don’t let that love die. You have to nurture love, you have to keep it interesting.
Posted on January 28th, 2009 by Admin
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